Reading

So since I spend 90% of my awake (and 100% of my asleep) time laying down..... I have read 4 books in the last week. And accomplished no sewing. Awesome. 

I am making this lady in my community some skirts for her daughter, and since I actually get paid for that I should probably do it, but it's so much more comforting to lay on my left side. It really is. 

So this last book I read was AWESOME! I mean SOSO good! ((And if there are a million typos it's bc I'm blogging on my phone. Because I obviously don't wAnt to sit when I could LAY down --am I right ??)) anyways - it's called "And then there were none" by Agatha Christie. I know what you are thinking..."my grandma has that book!" Yes -- that's what I've been thinking for the last 13 years and why I never read it. But oh I was WRONG. Not about it being old, but it was good! Makes me want to get my body off this bed and clear out the whole Agatha Christie bookshelf at the library. At this rate I can get through a book in a day or two.... 

Anyways -- here's a disclaimer for people like my friend Alissa -- Alissa you should never read this book! It would be bad! If you get freaked out over murders and people being hunted down, then steer clear. But if you kind of like that stuff, DIG in by all means! It's fascinating :) 

So not much sewing here. But much resting. Much laying down. Much swimming by the kids ((bc they still need to get their energy out)). Much ginger ale drinking. Much medicine taking (hoping it can keep the pukies at bay)). Much apologizing to Jake for being such a lame spouse. Much texting friends to try and keep a connection. 

Until next time! Hoping I can get something done besides gestating between now and then! 

And lastly... A picture of a bear that Liv put in time out. Sweet :) 

Unconventional Advice

Many things have been going on over here. We are back from Utah! WE MADE IT! It was a bit of a trip, and I have a post in mind about my tips to traveling with a 4 and 2 year old on an airplane by myself. I have a coupe "must haves."

Anyways - we are back, and while I was thinking about what to write, I decided to go super off topic (like usual) and give some unsolicited and unconventional advice. If you know Jake and I very well, you probably know we don't do a lot of things like other people. We just like to find our own way. We aren't swayed much by what "other people do" or what "people think we should do."

So I'm sure much of our family (and many friends) think we are kind of crazy. It's ok - I'm fine with that. So here's my crazy advice.

But first.... AN ANNOUNCEMENT! And a picture of what a 2 year old looks like in a grown man's basketball pants.

We are pregnant with our third child. Yes - #3. That's a pretty big deal I think. I'm not as sick as I usually am (which if VERY sick) so that's a plus, but I do find myself laying down more often than not.

So here's my unconventional pregnancy advice. (I read some pregnancy advice last week that totally bugged me -- so I thought I would be the other side of the coin, and say something some people would disagree with -- just in case you are that type of person who goes against what everyone else says)..

1. You can tell people you are pregnant ANY TIME!!!

    WHAT? You mean, you don't have to wait the agonizing 12 weeks until it's "safe"??? No - of course not. If that's what you want to do, and like to do, that's great. But you don't HAVE to - and no one should look down on anyone that does.
   
     Jake and I have NEVER waited 12 weeks. There's a couple of reasons for this. First, is I get extremely sick and dysfunctional. So instead of having people think I'm going crazy or just plain mean, I tell them there is a completely legitimate reason I have disappeared off the face of the earth. It's not a big deal. They understand. Second, Jake has a hard time keeping a secret. That's fine. It's not a big deal. Third -- and this is the biggest reason people wait to tell, is that they are afraid of having a miscarriage and having to go back and tell people they are no longer pregnant. But think about this -- You would probably be going through a rough time if you had a miscarriage, right? Then wouldn't you want support from those people who love you, that you told you were pregnant? Yes, of course it would be hard to go back, but at least you have a network of family and friends who can help you get through that hard time, rather than feeling the hurt and disappointment on your own, and trying to get through it without anyone knowing.

2. If you can, SPLURGE on nice pregnancy clothes for your first.
 
   Here's where hindsight is 20/20. I wish I would have rounded up some good money and bought nice pregnancy clothes when I was pregnant with Sam. Oh how I wish that. Thankfully, my cousin and sister let me borrow LOADS of their pregnancy clothes, but they weren't my style, and they were too large so for the bulk of my pregnancy with Sam, I felt like a huge ugly person. I hardly ever felt cute. It was bad. Seriously.

   With Olivia, we were SO POOR. I mean, SO POOR. Jake was in grad school and we were living on about $18,000 a year. So I went to a discount place and bought some clothes and it was better than Sam, but still kind of iffy.

   With this one, before I ever got pregnant, I told Jake I wanted some money to buy some nice pregnancy clothes. I wanted to look nice, and FEEL good. So the night I got the positive, I was browsing on www.apeainapod.com and I found some awesome deals. I had previously talked to one of my friends about some good quality maternity clothes, and she pointed me towards this store. So - they were having this deal - buy one get one free of everything on clearance. WHAT??? My lucky night! So I got over $600 worth of clothes for $170. I got 7 shirts, 2 tunics, 1 pair of leggings, and 2 bras. That averages to about $14 per item -- and these shirts and tunics range from $58 - $68 each. So yes, while sometimes it's hard to find the money to splurge on clothes, I wish I would have done it earlier. Then I could have enjoyed these clothes for 2 more pregnancies, rather than just this one. Or maybe another one if I can work myself up for it... but I swear this is our last.

    And while I'm not showing enough for people to even know that I'm pregnant, I still wear the clothes. They just look like normal stuff (shirring at the sides of the shirts, etc). I'm super comfortable and I'm getting use out of them.

   And as a side note, there is no reason to wait as long as possible to get or wear maternity clothes. I mean, you get a positive on that stick, just hop into that comfy maternity shirt. Your belly will thank you! You don't have to do the rubber band trick until you feel like your insides will become your outsides. Just put on those nice maternity jeans. Looking and feeling good is key in this stage of life. Get over any pride about fitting into your "regular" jeans until you were 6 months along. I mean, if that's comfortable and you love doing that, GREAT - but don't feel like you have to because your neighbor does it.

3. This is similar to the maternity clothes, but if you can splurge on nice baby items.

   I have always wanted a video baby monitor. Like really wanted one, but I don't really want to spend the $$ on it - I mean, we are trying to pay of student loans here (MINE!!) and I can only justify so much frivolous spending. But I would have felt much better about it if I had bought it with Sam. Then I really would have gotten my mileage out of it with all three kids.

    One thing I did do was buy a really nice stroller. It was awesome. ((We bought it by saving up traveling reimbursement money)). I used it all the time with Sam, and I used it a good amount with Livvy. Sadly, we just sold it a couple months ago, because we knew with #3 coming along, we could probably need something different. It just didn't fit into our family's needs right now, so we let it go. And sometimes you will buy nice stuff, and you will use it, then you will sell it. But it was totally worth it. I bought it used, five years later sold it for about $125 less than what I bought it for. Not bad. And so far I have used that money to buy an Ergo Baby carrier (which was essential on this flight) and some car seat bags I used to carry the car seats through the airport. And I still have enough left for a smaller stroller for baby #3. Perfect.

4. Last -- here's some crazy advice I started following and it was really helped me. Like has made a big difference in how sick I am with this pregnancy.

   But back story first -- I was pursuing  Pintrest and saw something a friend had pinned about "What to do BEFORE you are pregnant, so you aren't as sick WHEN you are pregnant." I thought - BS. Not a chance. I was 37 weeks with Olivia and my Zofran (high powered anti-neusea meds) ran out. I thought "hey, I'm fine... she's viable, I don't need this stuff." Nope - totally puking at 37 weeks without my meds.... So I didn't think there was anything I could do to stop the sickness

     Anyways - I thought I would read the article, even though I didn't really think anything could help. So here it is.... And I have done everything the website said (Like taking Milk Thistle, Vitamin B complex, and Magnesium ---but I don't take the DoTerra vitamins) and I really have felt better than normal.

   So I don't know if this pregnancy is just "different" or if it's my herbal remedies, but I'm sticking with them. I started taking them about 3 to 4 months before i got pregnant, and I think it has helped.


So there's my random unconventional advice. I'm sure I have more, I just can't think of it yet. And I really just want to go lay down ;)

Utah

MSo I'm in Utah -- I flew here on Saturday to support my dad and see my mom. My mom is the strongest fighter I have ever seen. She fought her hardest to live and won. She's working on getting stronger so she can come home. 

But while I'm here my life is on hold -- I'm trying to enjoy daily naps and time with my sister. Sam and Olivia are playing like crazy with cousins and loving it here. 

And I'm kind of scared for the flight back -- it's rough traveling with kids by myself! There was a lot of moving. And wiggling. 

And even once when Livvy, in a shirt and diaper grabbed my purse and said "check it out" and proceeded to walk down the aisle of the plane still saying "check it out" while people just look at her. Then we stand in the bathroom line and she hovers over a woman playing on her iPad before we head back to our seat... 

That girl makes me laugh.... And drives me absolutely nuts. 

And did I mention Sam got some time in the cockpit? Jake sure was jealous! 

Check back later for an awesome update on the dress - it's done and I need a lot of suggestions! 

Scared to Sew and Updates

There's this parenting book I have been reading. I bought it and immediately lent it too a good friend. Then as soon as I got it back, I leant it to another friend. It's like I want EVERYONE to know about this awesome book. But I want to read it again! So I'm going to have to ask for it back - Friend #2 has had it for 9 days. It's totally legit to ask for it back now. I mean, she should be done, right ?? ;)

I already have a post going about it - I just need to get the BOOK BACK so I can finish up writing it. Next time I see her, I'm going to ask for it - So you can hear all about this book too. I love it.

Anyways - from this book, I've learned that I'm a "physical" person. I'm a "goer." I have to get things done, I like to do big things, and I somewhat measure my worth my what I can get done. I don't like people to tell me what to do. I won't do it - Now that I'm older, I will just shake my head then go do whatever I want. I'm sure a lot of women (and men) can identify with this!

If you see this manifest itself in a toddler, you get what you call "the terrible twos!" I mean, there are terrible twos, and there are TYPE 3 terrible twos. Type 3 Terrible Twos are EXPLOSIVE! That's my Olivia. She's a feisty Type 3, like me. I call my mom and dad all the time and relate to them her latest shenanigans, and ask "Did I do this to you??" And most of the time they say "No!" I wonder how true that statement is....

But I'm sure those of us with kids, have kids who are "just like us!." I think Jake and Sam are the same - Type 1. They are the happy go lucky, most always in a good mood, and want to play all the time. Life is a game.

Back to my Type 3ness. It's hard to be a Type 3. I have these big plans - Hey "Why don't I just start my own kids clothing line." Seriously - who thinks that? Well, me. Then I go for it. But reality just sucks me back. I have dishes to do - I have to go swimming regularly (should I be complaining about this??), I have to do the budget. Lately I'm on the phone or texting a lot about how my mom is doing - wishing I were there.

But you know what else stops me from accomplishing things? I feel like I have to have things "exactly" how I want them. Look at this:

What is that even?

It's a mess.  Who has the motivation to sew that?

I like lined dresses - fully, beautifully lined. "Why not, since I'm making it fully lined, make it perfectly reversible too??" Well - that's a lot of effort. So I end up with this:

It's been sitting there for two days. If I don't mess up on anything I could have the dress done in 15 minutes. But... instead I let it sit there for 2 days... getting up the energy to try and sew it and hope I don't mess up. Because I REALLY hate unpicking stitches. Like hate it so bad, I would rather sew and change things than unpick a seam.

But - it's going to be beautiful. Once it's done. Those fully lined sleeves are just a beast. I may have to redesign those if I can't get it better - I can't be so scared of sewing a dress. That wouldn't make such great business sense.

So maybe I can conquer that tonight. Hopefully.

Tomorrow's goal is to finish and take pictures of the dress while Olivia is wearing it?

WHAT A GOAL!

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Other info you just might be interested in

- Mom is still in ICU    Drs still talking about doing lung surgery for a isolated pocket of infection that's probably been in her lung for over a year.
- BMB (Bone Marrow Biopsy) done today   Poor woman    Stick a needle in my bone? I think I'll punch you, that's all!
- Still on a berating tube and feeding tube. Those will probably come out after they do surgery, IF they do surgery.


And
- Maybe Olivia is growing up a bit - I haven't had a fight with her for a couple days   She is being a good girl to be around    She is one sweet girl, but she definitely has her temper tantrums (which she obviously inherited from me! opps!)

And one picture of Olivia -- This was Friday. We always go "pick up our vegetables" from a local farmer on Friday afternoons. Sam and Olivia always want to hold something from the bag on the way back, so I gave Sam bananas and Olivia a yellow squash. Next time I look back, she's eaten the top of the squash off. Sweet. She said she like it.

((Notice her pjs are on inside out AND backwards??? It stops the "poop painting" that so regularly happens around here. We have been living in this apt for 4 months, and have carpet cleaned poop out of her bedroom carpet about 5 or 6 times because she gets a little aggressive with a poopy diaper at nap time.))